LINKS . . .
The links below may be of interest. More links will be added over time, and if you would like to suggest one, please contact TACA.
  • The British Army: http://www.army.mod.uk
  • The Ministry of Defence: http://www.mod.uk/defenceinternet/home
  • The Army Families Federation (AFF) acts as the independent voice of army families and works hard to improve the quality of army family life. Visit its website at: http://www.aff.org.uk
  • The Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen and Families Association (SSAFA) Forces Help provides support for the serving men and women in today's armed forces and for those who have served, also caring for the needs of their families and dependants. For more information, visit: http://www.ssafa.org.uk
  • ABF The Soldiers' Charity (formerly the Army Benevolent Fund, or ABF) provides financial and practical support to soldiers, former soldiers and their families in times of need by means of grants made to appropriate individuals and charities. Learn more by visiting its website: http://www.soldierscharity.org
  • The Royal British Legion (http://www.britishlegion.org.uk) provides financial, social and emotional support to those who have served, and who are currently serving, in the armed forces, and to their dependants.
  • ‘Any loss can be devastating, but there can be factors specific to military deaths that complicate the grieving process. In particular, many service children are bereaved when young and, as they mature, they will revisit the death.’ The charity Cruse Bereavement Care provides support for service families in the armed forces (as well as for bereaved people generally). For further information, click here: http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/ Military.html
  • The Forces Children's Trust is a charity devoted to helping dependent children who have lost a parent while serving with the armed forces. Discover more at http://www.forceschildrenstrust.org
  • Veterans-UK encompasses a variety of different veterans' services provided by a range of organisations from the Ministry of Defence, other government departments and voluntary-sector organisations. For further information on the Service Personnel and Veterans Agency (SPVA) and services and organisations aimed at helping veterans, visit the Veterans-UK website at: http://www.veterans-uk.info
  • On the Rear Party website (http://www.rearparty.co.uk), an unofficial community site for the friends, families and supporters of the British armed forces, you'll find forums, a photo gallery, live chat and blogs, as well as information, support and advice.
  • Intended as 'a helping hand' for 'everyone who is the mother of, married to or a friend of someone in the Forces', the Forces Chatter website was set up by Judith Bray, a military mother and author of two self-help books for the families and friends of soldiers away on active deployment. The website includes detailed sections focusing on family life, deployment, keeping in touch, military jargon and discounts and offers; there is also a 'Help Me' section, a chat room and a forum. Visit Forces Chatter at: http://www.forceschatter.co.uk
  • The focus of Forces Reunited (http://www.forcesreunited.org.uk) is on the veterans' community. As well as enabling members to make contact with old forces friends online, it hosts forums and chat rooms and displays memories, memorials and images submitted by members.
  • There are a number of groups on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com) that bring together past and present 'army brats'; the largest is currently British Forces brats, which is open to all.
THE SERVICE CHILDREN SUPPORT NETWORK (SCSN)
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Joy O’Neill, a service wife and mother, Early Years teacher and an educational researcher, is the founder and chair of the Service Children Support Network (SCSN). Here, Joy explains who those who belong to the Service Children Support Network are, and what SCSN does:
‘We are a group of over a hundred education and welfare professionals working collaboratively with members of the military community to encourage and facilitate the provision of high-quality support to service children and their families. We do this by:
  • promoting an understanding of the specific needs of both regular and reservist service children, their families and younger siblings of serving personnel;
  • offering effective support, training and advice to professionals working with service children and their families; and
  • increasing the knowledge and skills base of professionals working with service children and their families.
Since November 2009, this has been achieved through quarterly newsletters, regular e-mail updates, a website and three meetings a year, which offer opportunities to share good practice, discuss concerns and access training through a variety of guest speakers.

Service families across the country tell me that they want schools, professionals, non-service organisations and communities to have a better understanding of the issues facing service children and families. Professionals tell me that they are either unaware of the issues or unsure of how to access support and training. SCSN believes that it is vital that educational and welfare professionals be made aware of the challenges that can arise as a result of military life and the potential impacts that they can have on children and their educational attainment.

SCSN is now expanding by creating a research and training arm of the organisation to enable high-quality training to be developed and delivered across the UK to all professionals working with service children and their families.

For more information, e-mail contact@servicechildrensupportnetwork.com or visit the SCSN website at
www.servicechildrensupportnetwork.com.’

SCOTTY'S LITTLE SOLDIERS: THE CHARITY FOR CHILDREN OF THE FALLEN
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A new charity has just been set up dedicated to supporting children who have lost a parent serving in the British armed forces. The brainchild of army widow Nichola Scott, Nichola was inspired to set up Scotty's Little Children following the death in Afghanistan of her husband, Corporal Lee Scott (known as 'Scotty'), leaving behind a young son, Kai (who he used to call his 'little soldier'), and daughter, Brooke. The charity's aim is to bring the occasional ray of sunshine into the everyday lives of bereaved forces children by providing them with treats, activities and outings. 'We know that a birthday gift, trip to a theme park or visit to a zoo won't take their grief away,' say those running Scotty's Little Children, 'but if we can offer a brief respite to these brave children coming to terms with their loss, we believe our efforts won’t have been in vain'.

To read more about Scotty's Little Soldiers, and to find out about the ways in which you can support this new charity, visit its website: http://www.scottyslittlesoldiers.co.uk. And click here to watch a British Forces News interview with Nichola Scott.

TACA CORRESPONDENCE: HOMEFRONT FORCES WEBSITE FOR CURRENT FORCES FAMILIES

Anna Matthews has contacted TACA with news of a website that she is setting up with Lorraine Bilton, which can already be viewed online. Here, Anna explains more about the vision that she and Lorraine have for their Homefront Forces website, which is intended for those forces families with a parent away on active service:
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'Waiting for a loved one can be a deeply anxious time for a forces child. Two mums, Anna Matthews and Lorraine Bilton, have established a new family-friendly website. Their site, homefrontforces.org, will help ease the separation period for the estimated 175,000 UK children with a parent in the armed forces.

The two women were moved to set up the site during the build-up to Lorraine's husband’s eight-and-a-half-month deployment. Scouring the internet for family-friendly sites, the women drew a blank. They quickly established that a safe, child-friendly site, allowing a child to update a parent on everyday life, was needed to help maintain closeness between children and their parents during deployments. Their dream for Homefront Forces is that a child can send a message to mum or dad while tea is cooking through the private, secure 'Your Family Page'. Parents and children will be able to post updates and share photos, videos, messages and e-cards.

Anna and Lorraine have discussed their plans for the site with the MoD, Lord Knight of Weymouth, Richard Drax MP, John Denham MP and also Bob Ainsworth MP and former defence secretary. All are supportive of the project. The women also have the support of the Children's Society and the Royal Navy and Royal Marines Children's Fund, which, in November 2009, presented a report, 'The Overlooked Casualties of Conflict', raising awareness of the challenges that service children face.

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Homefront Forces' focus is to secure the funding required to commission the 'Your Family Page' so that families can start to benefit from the service during difficult periods of parental separation. Homefront Forces is now looking for supporters and followers on Twitter (@HomeFrontAnna and @HomeFrontLor) and would welcome feedback from forces families. The website itself can be found at www.homefrontforces.org.’
If you're interested in learning more, Anna and Lorraine can be contacted through the Homefront Forces website.

LINKS TO MORE LINKS
Scroll down to the bottom of the following pages for more lists of links.
> For links relating to army children's transportation, see 'ON THE MOVE'.
> For links regarding the places where army children have lived, see 'POSTINGS'.
> For links concerning army children's education, see 'SCHOOLING'.
> For links leading to further information on aspects of army children's healthcare and the British military hospitals (BMHs) where many were born, see 'HEALTHCARE & HOSPITALS'.
> For links relating to genealogical research into specific army children, see 'HISTORY MATTERS'.
> For links to researchers into current and recent army children, see ‘CURRENT & RECENT RESEARCH’.
> For links that provide historical background information regarding many army children's lives and times, see 'HISTORY MATTERS'.

. . . & LITERATURE

The following publications all help to put the history, lives and times of the children of serving British soldiers into context in some way. Can you recommend any other titles that you feel may merit a place on the list? If so, then please e-mail details to TACA.
  • Brennan, Jennifer, Curries & Bugles: A Memoir & Cookbook of the British Raj, Periplus Editions (HK) Ltd, Boston, 2000.
  • Browne, William A, An Account of the Life of a Military Misfit, 1937, see: http://www.achart.ca/hibernian/misfit.htm
  • Chandler, David (ed), The Oxford Illustrated History of the British Army, Oxford University Press, Oxford, 1994.
  • Cockerill, A W, The Charity of Mars, Black Cat Press, Cobourg, Ontario, Canada, 2002.
  • Cockerill, A W, Sons of the Brave, Leo Cooper in association with Secker & Warburg, London, 1984.
  • Forty, George and Anne, They Also Served: A Pictorial Anthology of Camp Followers Through the Ages, Midas Books, Spelhurst, 1979.
  • Freeman, Bob, The Soldier Boy, George Mann Books, Maidstone, 1996.
  • Gibson, Clare, 'Children of the Regiment', Practical Family History, March 2007.
  • Gibson, Clare, 'Minors on the March', Ancestors, September 2008.
  • Gibson, Clare, 'Following the Drum', Family History Monthly, September 2009.
  • Gibson, Clare, ‘Married Quarters: Then and Now’, AFF Families Journal, Winter 2009.
  • Gibson, Clare, 'A Poignant Story from Postcards', Family Tree magazine, September 2010.
  • Gibson, Marianne, How the Army Wife Gained Status and a Voice in 1982, Canterbury, 2002.
  • Holmes, Richard, Redcoat: The British Soldier in the Age of Horse and Musket, HarperCollins Publishers, London, 2001.
  • Holmes, Richard, Sahib: The British Soldier in India, 1750-1914, HarperCollins Publishers, London, 2005.
  • Jessup, Chris, Breaking Ranks: Social Change in Military Communities, Brassey's (UK) Ltd, London, 1996.
  • Jolly, Ruth, Military Man, Family Man, Crown Property? Second Edition, Brassey's, London, 1992.
  • Longyear, Michael, Malta, 1937-1942: Some Childhood Memories, 2006. (For further details, see below.)
  • Longyear, Michael (ed), A New Life: Some Pupils' Accounts of the First Full Year in the Life of Prince Rupert School, Germany, 2007.
  • Longyear, Michael (ed), Prince Rupert School: The Creation of a Boarding School for Service Families in Post-war Germany, 2006.
  • May, Trevor, Military Barracks, Shire Publications Ltd, Princes Risborough, 2002.
  • Mays, Spike, The Band Rats, Peter Davies, London, 1975.
  • McGuffie, Tom Henderson, Rank and File: The Common Soldier at Peace and War, 1642-1914, Hutchinson, London, 1964.
  • Neuburg, Victor, Gone for a Soldier: A History of Life in the British Ranks from 1642, Cassell Publishers Ltd, London, 1989.
  • Parker, Tony, Soldier, Soldier, William Heinemann Ltd, London, 1985.
  • Stanford, Fiona, Don’t Say Goodbye: Our Heroes and the Families They Leave Behind, Hodder & Stoughton Ltd, London, 2011.
  • Trustram, Myna, Women of the Regiment: Marriage and the Victorian Army, Cambridge University Press, Cambridge, 1984.
  • Venning, Annabel, Following the Drum: The Lives of Army Wives and Daughters Past and Present, Headline Book Publishing, London, 2005.
  • Wayper, Leslie, Mars and Minerva: A History of Army Education, Royal Army Educational Corps Association, 2004.
  • White, A C T, The Story of Army Education, 1643-1963, Harrap, London, 1963.
  • Williams, Noel St John, Judy O'Grady & the Colonel's Lady: The Army Wife and Camp Follower Since 1660, Brassey's Defence Publishers Ltd, London, 1988.
  • Williams, Col N T St John, Tommy Atkins' Children, HMSO, London, 1971.
BOOK: A NEW HISTORY OF THE ROYAL HIBERNIAN MILITARY SCHOOL
A W Cockerill, who runs the Delta Tech Systems website (a mine of information on army education and, in conjunction with http://www.rma-searcher.co.uk, the Duke of York’s School and the Royal Hibernian School), has sent news of a new book entitled A New History of the Royal Hibernian Military School, by Howard R Clarke.
‘This history of the Royal Hibernian Military School and its buildings in Phoenix Park, Dublin, traces the school’s origins to the foundation of the Hibernian Society for Soldiers’ Children (boys and girls) in the parish of St Paul, Dublin, in 1765. Howard Clarke explains how, in the nineteenth century, at a time when Irishmen formed a large part of the British Army, the school was transformed into a military school, for the sons of soldiers only, with the objective of preparing them to follow their fathers and enlist in the British Army.

The Hibernian School was opened at Phoenix Park in 1770, and was evacuated to England in 1922. During these years, the buildings were home to more than 13,000 boys and girls, most of whom had family connections in Ireland.

Readers with ancestors who attended the school will be interested in the living conditions of the Hibernian School children. The book describes their food, discipline and the education that they were given to prepare them for indentured apprenticeships – or, from 1808 in the case of the boys, for enlistment in the British Army.

Howard Clarke’s well-researched and -referenced history includes 44 black-and-white and colour illustrations, maps, a bibliography, and an introduction written to assist the reader to identify chapters relevant to his or her particular interests.

This book deserves a place in any library or military collection, and will be welcomed as a source of genealogical reference for more than an estimated 2 million descendants of the Hibernian School students.

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Format: 561pp. Demi 8vo, paperback. Weight 1kg.
Price £26 ($45.00 US), including handling and shipping by surface mail.
Available through PayPal from Howard R Clarke (e-mail clarkehr@aol.com).
To order through bookstores, quote ISBN 978-0-9567864-0-1.’


TACA CORRESPONDENCE: POPPIES FROM THE HEART OF STRATHSPEY, BY PETER ANDERSON
Peter Anderson, whose father was in the Royal Army Pay Corps (and who is the poser of a question on TACA that resonates with many army children: 'QUESTION: WHERE IS MY HOME'?), has sent news of a book that he has recently published. Called Poppies from the Heart of Strathspey, the book explores the effect that World War I had on Strathspey, in Morayshire, Scotland: on its men, who fought in the conflict, and on the families and communities that they left behind. Click here to read a review of Peter's book, and here to buy a copy of it (its extent is 294pp and it costs £11.50).

REVIEW:
CURRIES & BUGLES: A MEMOIR & COOKBOOK OF THE BRITISH RAJ
'My early childhood was spent between the North-west Frontier Province, the Punjab and Kashmir. And the memories are with me to this day: sights of the heaven-thrusting ice peaks of the Himalayas and the parched brown infinity of the plains; the soft soughing of the wind through the pines of the hill stations and the plaintive call of the brain-fever bird (harbinger of hot weather); the acrid but strangely pleasing aroma of the burning dung of village fires; the heady perfume from the ceremonial garlands in the bazaar and the unforgettable smell of the first hard drops of monsoon rain on the thirsting earth.'

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Those who are interested in understanding what it was like to grow up as a British army child in pre-independence India, those who actually did so, and anyone who savours Indian and Anglo–Indian food will relish Jennifer Brennan's book Curries & Bugles: A Memoir & Cookbook of the British Raj (for further details, see: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Curries-Bugles-Memoir-Cook-British/dp/9625938184/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221088275&sr=8-1). Despite her mother's family having lived in India since the days of the East India Company, this 'third-generation member of the British Raj' and daughter of an officer in the Royal Engineers (then a captain, later Major-General G A T Pritchard, CBE), was born in Aldershot in 1935 ('My parents decided . . . that I should be born in England and so I was'). The family soon returned to India, however, and this fascinating book – part memoir, part colonial and social history, part family photograph album and part recipe book – presents an evocative picture of a British army family's privileged lifestyle in India during the 1930s and 1940s.

With its focus on food – illustrated, enlivened and set into context by the author's historical research and personal reminiscences – the book's ten chapters explain and recall the spices, pickles and preserves used in Indian and Anglo–Indian cooking, as well as typical breakfasts, lunches, teas and dinners, meals eaten outdoors and on the move, buffets and party food. Chapter 8, which is devoted to children's fare, is especially illuminating in relation to the army-child experience in India, recalling as it does nannies, bungalows, childhood routines, summers spent in Murree and carefree children's parties, but also the unsettling intrusion of war and the mounting evidence of anti-British feeling as seen from a child's viewpoint. Easy-to-follow recipes and a useful glossary are the icing on the cake. CG

REVIEW: MALTA, 1937-1942: SOME CHILDHOOD MEMORIES
Following his family's arrival on the Mediterranean island of Malta (then a British dependency) in 1937, it seemed to the young Michael Longyear that life was 'one long round of swimming, beach picnics, lunches, sight seeing and generally enjoying ourselves'. The youngest of the five children of a regular soldier in the Royal Engineers, Michael would progress from primary to secondary education during the five years that he spent on Malta, but the idyllic peacetime conditions that he recalls in Malta, 1937-1942: Some Childhood Memories would prevail for only two. His memories from this pre-war period encompass such details as the appearance of the married quarters at Msida Bastion; attending primary school in Floriana Barracks; accompanying troops on exercise; and enjoying a typical Maltese workers' lunch.

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Food, or the lack of it, would loom ever larger following the outbreak of World War II in 1939, and particularly between 1940 and 1942, when Malta was attacked and besieged by the Axis powers, Italy and Germany. Initially, 'there was very little activity with only 211 air raids [in 1940], just over one a day, which we as children did not worry about at all', writes Michael, but from 1941, the bombing raids became heavier and more frequent, causing the population to spend increasing amounts of time in air-raid shelters. Food and clothing became ever scarcer, and, as Michael comments, 'To feed, clothe and keep clean a family with no running water, electricity, fuel, food or clothing must have been a nightmare' for his mother. Michael and she would be evacuated to England via Gibraltar by air in 1942, but not before they had witnessed the presentation of the George Cross to the island of Malta.

Malta, 1937-1942: Some Childhood Memories tells a fascinating story of an army child's experience of living under siege. Michael Longyear has furthermore woven into his eyewitness account a number of touching and dramatic images from the family's photograph album; pertinent facts and figures that set his childhood experiences into historical context; as well thoughtful personal observations from his adult perspective. Readers with an interest in Malta during this difficult period in its history will, of course, find much of interest here, as will any former army child. CG

To obtain a copy of this illustrated, 40pp booklet (which costs £4, including post and packing for the UK; overseas p&p by arrangement), e-mail MLPRS@aol.com.

REVIEW: LAY GENTLY ON THE COALS
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When your family is as large as Arthur Fulthorpe’s, life is never going to lack noise and colour, and when a world war demands the active participation of most of your siblings, nor will it be without drama and incident either. Art Cockerill’s novel begins in 1937, the opening chapters of Lay Gently on the Coals painting a nostalgic picture of a close-knit working-class family, at the heart of which are Jack and Margaret Fulthorpe and their seven children (three more will join them in due course). Arthur, nine years old in 1937, is the fifth in line. Jack is working as a stoker at a gasworks in Northampton at this stage in the family’s history, yet the Fulthorpes have a strong sense of military identity. For not only is Northampton a garrison town, but Jack was once a soldier who ‘fought in the trenches of the Western Front and served as a soldier of the British Raj on the North West Frontier’ until leaving the army as a sergeant in 1927. Indeed, it is because they are a ‘military family in need of the army’s charity and benevolence’ that Arthur is admitted to the Duke of York’s Royal Military School in Dover, Kent, in 1939.

On the outbreak of World War II, those of Arthur’s siblings who are old enough to join up opt for military service, too, with Jack junior and Harry enlisting in the Royal Navy; Mary, in the Women’s Land Army, and later the Auxiliary Territorial Service; and Ada May, in the Women’s Auxiliary Air Force. Schooling completed, Arthur moves on to the Army Technical School, as does his younger brother Fred, following in Arthur’s footsteps from the Duke of York’s Royal Military School. All survive the war, although not unscathed, and Lay Gently on the Coals recounts the heroism, horror, humour – and surprises – inherent in their wartime experiences, also relating how civilian life on the home front changes during the war years.

History-lovers will especially appreciate this book, as well as the author’s lively style and sharp eye for detail. Family and local historians will savour the author’s skilful evocation of the atmosphere of 1930s’ Northampton and his description of the daily lives of working-class families of the time. Those with army ancestors – especially if they served in the Northamptonshire Regiment – and readers with an interest in military history will relish the account of the Talavera Day parade witnessed by a thrilled young Arthur, as well as the ‘military metaphor’ that, as he puts it, is ‘woven into the fabric of our lives’. Past and present Dukies will be drawn to the sections devoted to Arthur’s time at the Duke of York’s Royal Military School, of course, while those without personal experience of a military school’s idiosyncrasies will find them enlightening.

This novel is ultimately shaped by World War II, however, and some of the most compelling scenes are those that lend an eyewitness account’s colour and immediacy to historical events with which those who were born later are familiar only from black-and-white newsreels. Notable among these are the scenes of ‘utter confusion’ during the arrival at Dover harbour of the little ships from Dunkirk, for example, and London’s Waterloo Station, which, in July 1943, appeared to be ‘a seething mob of uniforms’, and ‘the hub of the world at war’. Viewed through the prism of family history in this way, world history seems more human, and consequently somehow more real. CG

Lay Gently on the Coals, by Art Cockerill, was published in 2011 by AESOP Publications, UK. Click here to order the book directly from AESOP Publications or click here to visit the author’s website, which gives further details of the book (http://www.achart.ca/books/lay-gently.htm) and also presents a comprehensive history of the Duke of York’s Royal Military School.

REVIEW: SMALL WARS
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If you were an army child who lived in Cyprus during the 1950s, your memories of those days may well comprise a mishmash of mundane scenes drawn from post-war British family life, albeit with a distinctly army flavour (egg-and-cress sandwiches at the mess or officers' club, for instance), played out against a colourful backdrop featuring beautiful beaches, exotic food and friendly Cypriots. Maybe you were there between 1955 and 1959, in which case you may also recall explosions, curfews and feeling fearful, for these were the years when a bloody campaign of terror was waged by members of EOKA, and when British army wives and children were just as much targets as their husbands and fathers. If so, Sadie Jones' latest novel, Small Wars, will transport you straight back to that period of your life. If you have no experience of that time and place, however, their skilful evocation by a prize-winning writer will provide you with a deftly sketched and well-balanced insight into the complex ideals, ideologies and forces ranged against each other in this vicious 'small war' in Cyprus. It will also give you an inkling of the potentially devastating personal effect that the stress of living at the centre of such a volatile situation could have on the servicemen and their families who were stationed in Cyprus, at a time when the term 'post-traumatic stress disorder' was still unknown.

While the various historical aspects of this simultaneously subtle, powerful and haunting novel – and especially of the stiff-upper-lip-maintaining, self-medicating-with-White Ladies attitude upheld by the British Army – have been meticulously researched, authentically presented and sensitively handled, it is the unfolding story of the 'small war' between the initially dutiful and devoted Major Hal Treherne and his wife Clara (fresh from their previous posting in Krefeld, (West) Germany, and the parents of small twin daughters) that really grips. What's more, the issues and questions raised by Small Wars continue to have relevance to service families today. CG

Small Wars, by Sadie Jones, was published on 27 August 2009 by Chatto & Windus; for further details, click here. And click here to read contributions to TACA from Joan McCartney (PERSONAL STORY: 'I'M JUST SO GLAD I WAS AN ARMY KID') and Sheila Danks (PERSONAL STORY: MY LIFE AS AN ARMY CHILD), both of which recall 1950s' Cyprus from an army child's perspective.

REVIEW: RED ONE: A BOMB DISPOSAL EXPERT ON THE FRONT LINE
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‘Looking back, I was always going to join the Army; it just took me a few years to realize it.’ At the start of Red One: A Bomb Disposal Expert on the Front Line, Kevin Ivison, the son of an infantryman, sketches out his army childhood as having been: ‘militarily nomadic, moving from home to home as my father’s Army career led us from my birthplace of Shropshire to York, Germany and finally Lancashire’. His description of the highlights of the five years that the Ivison family spent in Paderborn, (West) Germany (‘on the front line of the Cold War’), will strike a chord with many of his army-child contemporaries: feeling the classroom shake as a column of armoured personnel carriers rumbled by returning from exercise, for instance, or checking under the family car for bombs planted by the Provisional IRA. They will also understand why, after a few years ‘on civvy street’, experiencing an army-awareness day at Fulwood Barracks in Preston inspired the fifteen-year-old Ivison to follow in his father’s footsteps in joining up: ‘I had grown up with the Army and hadn’t even realized how much I had missed it’. ‘The Army felt natural, like family. It was home’, says Ivison, who, between attending Welbeck College and Sandhurst, later became inspired to aim to qualify as an ammunition technical officer (ATO), in other words, a bomb-disposal expert.

November 2005 saw Ivison arrive in Al Amarah, the ‘front line’ in Iraq, at the start of his posting as the ATO there. And it was in Al Amarah, on 28 February 2006, that, by now exhausted and with his nerves shot to shreds, he walked past the bodies of two Paratrooper friends on his way to defuse a secondary improvised explosive device (IED). Ivison was awarded the George Medal (GM) for his actions that day, but was left with such severe post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that, three years later, and with a heavy heart, he felt that he had no choice but to leave the army.

In Red One: A Bomb Disposal Expert on the Front Line, Ivison gives the reader a rare insight into the camaraderie of soldiering, and the excitement of combat, but also into the volatility, loneliness and utter desperation suffered by those with PTSD. This can’t have been an easy book to write, but in being so painfully honest, Ivison has done the Army family – the forces family – a service. CG

Red One: A Bomb Disposal Expert on the Front Line, by Captain Kevin Ivison, GM, was published in 2010 by Weidenfeld & Nicolson, London. Visit the author’s website for further information: http://www.kevinivison.co.uk.

REVIEW: DON’T SAY GOODBYE: OUR HEROES AND THE FAMILIES THEY LEAVE BEHIND
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The dedications at the start of Don’t Say Goodbye: Our Heroes and the Families They Leave Behind are telling, listing as they do the names of seven men from the Welsh Guards who were killed in action in Afghanistan in 2009 above those of the author’s husband and children. For the author, Fiona Stanford, the wife of a serving officer in the Welsh Guards and the mother of two army children, wrote her book as an emotional response to the deaths of those seven men. ‘It was at the funerals in the summer of 2009, when I was confronted with the ultimate price paid by the Welsh Guardsmen who died and by the grief of their families, that I understood that writing this book was not just a good idea, it was a necessity. I want to tell the story of the people left behind . . .’ she explains, before drawing on her own experience, and that of other Welsh Guards’ families, to do exactly that.

Don’t Say Goodbye: Our Heroes and the Families They Leave Behind focuses especially on army wives, and on the impact that the undeniably family-unfriendly military lifestyle has on them. More positively, it describes the camaraderie and mutual-support network that enables those who married into the army to cope with umpteen moves, disrupted careers and all too regular enforced separations from their husbands, children and extended family. The ‘Nomadic Children’ chapter is, however, devoted to army children, and explains with clear-sighted empathy the distress experienced by youngsters when their fathers are not only absent from home for long periods, but are also deployed to war zones and are therefore exposed to extreme danger. It additionally sets out the problems and difficult choices that are part and parcel of ‘normal’ army life, such as those that arise from moving home and switching schools so frequently. Although it is not a choice made by all forces families, the Stanfords opted to minimise the disruption to their children’s education by sending them to boarding school. As fourteen-year-old Oliver states: ‘I had ten moves and five schools by the time I was eleven, so I was busy. (I did “The Tudors” five times)’, while eleven-year-old Annabel observes that, ultimately, home is ‘where my family is and my own bed’. Their mother later shares her hopes for them: ‘I hope they will reflect and realise that, despite the upheavals and the many goodbyes, they will also have learned from having to be adaptable, self-confident and loyal to friends both old and new’.

Readers with personal connections to the Welsh Guards will be especially interested in this book, but it will certainly strike a chord with members of the wider ‘forces family’, past and present, too. It will also give those with no experience of military life a sobering idea of the challenges and heartache that it imposes on the wives (and increasingly husbands), partners and children of serving soldiers, and their stoicism in adversity, as well as their pride. The book is a little let down by some sloppy editing, but the author’s heartfelt admiration for the Welsh Guards’ families that are the subject of Don’t Say Goodbye: Our Heroes and the Families They Leave Behind, and her often moving interviews, more than make up for the occasional ‘SAAFA’. CG

Don’t Say Goodbye: Our Heroes and the Families They Leave Behind, by Fiona Stanford, was published in 2011 by Hodder & Stoughton Ltd, London. Proceeds raised from the sale of the book will be donated to the Welsh Guards Afghanistan Appeal. For more information, visit the publisher’s website: http://bit.ly/dSanf0.

BOOK: SERVICE CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR EDUCATION AND WELFARE PROFESSIONALS
A new book written to help British education and welfare professionals to understand and support British service children has just been published. Joy O’Neill, its author, explains why Service Children: A Guide for Education and Welfare Professionals is needed and how it can help.
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‘The experiences of service families will be quite different from those in civilian life, and at times these may have very significant impacts upon them. Their specific needs, and those of their children, are frequently overlooked because of a lack of understanding of the pressures placed upon them and the context in which they live. It is important that educational and welfare professionals understand the unique challenges that the service children of today face, and the effects that those experiences can have on them, if they are to support them effectively.

As a service spouse and parent, Joy O’Neill is very aware of the issues that families like hers encounter as a result of being constantly on the move. A service child’s education is often disrupted, and unless effective measures are put in place to mitigate those impacts, and those arising from other significant events, such as the operational deployment of a parent, the child may struggle to reach their full educational potential. As an Early Years teacher, academic researcher, founder of the
Service Children Support Network (SCSN) and chair of governors at a school where the pupil roll consists of 75 per cent service children, Joy has a wide perspective on the issues. She understands the challenges that schools, local-authority staff and other professionals have to tackle as they try to support the needs of service pupils.

This new resource has been put together with the specific aim of helping fellow professionals understand the issues that service families and their children face. It discusses mobility and transition, parental deployment on military operations, continuity of education and a number of other significant issues that they are likely to encounter when working with service children. Supported by research and case studies, it describes examples of best practice, offers practical advice and outlines strategies that have been shown to be effective when working in this field.’
Copies of Service Children: A Guide for Education and Welfare Professionals are available directly from the author for £13.95 (plus p + p), and can be ordered by e-mail from contact@servicechildrensupportnetwork.com.

CHILDREN'S BOOKS: SOLDIER OLI AND SOLDIER OLI MARCHES OUT
Many of TACA's contributors and visitors have had personal experience of the bewilderment and distress felt by very young army children as a result of a soldier parent's prolonged absence, and will therefore empathise with the youngsters who find themselves in a similar situation today. And if any number among your friends and family, you'll be interested to hear of the recent publication of Soldier Oli, by Kirsty Marvell, a rhyming picture book for pre-school children. For Soldier Oli, as Kirsty explains, is the story of a soldier leaving his family to go away on tour with his regiment, and then of his joyous return. It has been written to help children understand and cope if someone in their family has to go away on tour, too. Although written for children from army families, the story and pictures can be enjoyed by all children, Kirsty adds.

On contacting TACA, Kirsty, whose husband is in 1PWRR (the 1st Battalion, The Prince of Wales's Royal Regiment), relates how Soldier Oli came about:
'Three years ago, my husband and I moved with his regiment from London to Paderborn in Germany. I gave up work as a PE teacher at this time as I was heavily pregnant with my first child. Nine months after our son was born, my husband went on a seven-month tour to Iraq, along with most of the other soldiers living on our street. Our son was too young at the time to realise that his daddy was going away for such a long time, but it made me realise how difficult it must be for families with older children.

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I decided to write my story about Soldier Oli to help children understand that although someone in their family may go away on tour, they are still thinking about them and they will eventually come back home. I also thought it important for young children from army families, who may well have soldiers as role models, to have a book where a soldier is the main character.

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My story was put on hold with the arrival of my second child and our move to Wiltshire. However, many edits later, I finally published the story on March 31st this year [2009]. The book is now available for sale for £5.00, including postage and packaging, online at http//www.soldieroli.com; 50p from the sale of every book goes to the British Army's national charity, the Army Benevolent Fund.'
For further information and to purchase copies of Soldier Oli and Soldier Oli Marches Out, which focuses on moving house, please visit http://www.soldieroli.com.

CHILDREN'S BOOKS: MY DADDY IS A SOLDIER AND MY MUMMY IS A SOLDIER
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If you know a young army child, you'll be interested in a pair of books specifically for children between two and six years of age. Written by Gerry Waters – herself once an army child, and the mother and now the grandmother of army children – and inspired by her granddaughter Shay (who is pictured on the cover), My Daddy Is A Soldier is intended to help small army children cope with their fathers' absence when they are deployed on operations. As Gerry explains, 'The book My Daddy Is A Soldier isn't just aimed at the immediate Army community, but at the wider British public, as it will help raise awareness of Forces families and the pain of separation. It's also an educational tool for parents; a way of helping children understand that daddy will be coming back.' Following the same template, the main character in My Mummy Is A Soldier tells the story of her soldier mother, who is deployed on operations with the British Army.

For more information about the books, visit the My Daddy Is A Soldier and the My Mummy Is A Soldier websites (http://mydaddyisasoldier.co.uk and http://www.mymummyisasoldier.co.uk), from which you can also buy copies for £5.99 each (including UK postage), with all proceeds going to the Afghan Appeal Fund (http://afghanappealfund.org.uk).

CHILDREN'S BOOK:
MY DADDY'S GOING AWAY . . .
Current forces families will be heartened to learn of the recent publication of an illustrated storybook for young children intended to make it easier for them to cope emotionally when they are temporarily separated from their father. The story of My Daddy's Going Away . . ., by Major Christopher MacGregor – a serving army officer and father of two young children who spent much of 2007 training for and fighting on military operations abroad – is told in fourteen stanzas of poetry, with each verse linking into the emotional cycle of deployment. As well as having personal experience of being separated from his own children, Major MacGregor also has a psychology degree, making him well qualified to understand the issues and stresses faced by children and their fathers when they are apart from one another for extended periods of time, be it due to a military deployment or any other job that takes a parent away from home. HRH The Prince of Wales has written the foreword to My Daddy's Going Away . . ., which he commends for its potential to 'strengthen bonds and develop coping strategies', as well as for its promotion of Combat Stress and the Foundation for Integrated Health.

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You can have a quick look inside the book, which is published by Giddy Mangoes, by visiting www.mydaddysgoing away.com, where it is also on sale for £5.99 (including postage and packaging). The website provides useful psychological background information, too, along with advice for preparing for paternal separation before a father goes away, dealing with it during his absence and adjusting as a family after his return. In addition, it gives some top tips and fun ideas for keeping in contact and remaining close as a family whenever a daddy goes away.

BOOK: THE LITTLE BOOK OF HEROES
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The Little Book of Heroes, a book published in 2010, is filled with stories and poems written by British forces children and teenagers at Service Children’s Education (SCE) schools around the world, who were inspired to enter a creative-writing competition by its 'my hero' theme. Published by Grosvenor House Publishing Ltd (GHP), The Little Book of Heroes has been endorsed by Simon Weston and is supported by The Sun (to read an article in the newspaper about the book, click here). For more information about The Little Book of Heroes, which costs £2.99 (of which 75p will be donated to the Help for Heroes charity), visit the Little Book of Heroes website: http://www.littlebookofheroes.co.uk.


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